We all have tough relationships. And we usually ask questions about them like, “Why are they doing this to me?” Or, “Why are they acting so badly?” In this TEDx Talk, I share the concept I wrote about in my second book, "The 50 75 100 Solution: Build Better Relationships," that has allowed me to remove dysfunction from some very important, and pretty dysfunctional relationships. It started with me accepting that the problem might be me, but not in the traditional sense. I mean that in the sense that I can be the solution to our issues, and my resistance to that because I was stuck on who was right and wrong made it my responsibility in the end. Starting with three Buddhist principles, I share how to see our control and influence over the majority of any relationship dynamic, and how recognizing and using that can lead the relationship to be 100% better.